It is amazing to watch my kids grow and morph into mini versions of me, and Carl. Although some of the attitudes and looks I can’t explain so many little things remind me of myself, my childhood. Most of all little me’s make me think of how hard it was for my mom as a single parent, working 70 hours a week to truly put food on the table, pay our rent and humor me. I now see how hard it is to be a good parent. An instruction manual just won’t do. My mom has been truly amazing throughout my life and I can’t imagine for one second cancer taking her life years ago and her not being a part of my children’s lives.
What is most amazing is that I see my influence in Matt and Kate. As stepchildren they do not have my blood but they have had my love and support since they were 1 and 3. My primary goals have been to teach them respect, kindness and thankfulness. I believe that so many children today lack respect and core competencies that parents are either too busy to instill or don’t think they are important. As parents it is our job to provide our children with a solid foundation. Our schools, churches, peers and relationships that we choose should help promote and support the foundation we build not make it. Bryan Gratton, a pastor at our church says, “Show me your friends and I’ll show you your future,” I just love that saying because I believe in it. We are doing our best to surround our children with positive influence’s. Not always easy but we are blessed by an area surrounded by good schools, families and churches.