We have four children in two different school districts which are kind of like wearing two different shoes (a high heel and ugg boot) and trying to run a marathon. It just doesn’t work. Or at least one foot is comfortable and the other is constantly trying to be comfortable, but it isn’t possible. We have sought to adjust over the years by commuting or just spending less time together, but it is becoming harder and harder as they get older, verbalize their desire to be together and participate in more and more activities. It is also becoming harder and harder just to sit back and pretend that staying in Mars is best for any of our kids no matter how much we tell ourselves that it works just fine. Staying is easy.
It was strange last Saturday morning watching our younger two play Mars soccer and then going to our oldest sons Pine Richland football game (after running home to change out of the Mars uniform). Better yet the night before Pine Richland lost to Mars in High School football. Sometimes it is tough to only think about your kids and not yourself. We like where we live, the area, the school district, and our friends. But is remaining where we are the best decision for our family? Probably not, yet I can come up with many excuses why we should. Why is it so easy for us to just sit back and ignore difficult decisions in life? Why is it so easy to be selfish?
Every day I sit here and wonder how I can ignore some of the realities right in front of my face. Sometimes I have to pretend that someone else is telling me a story and then give my opinion to that pretend person. It is funny how it is easy to give someone else truthful advice and not yourself. If someone were to ask me how to provide the best life possible for four kids in two different school districts my answer would be simple, get them into one district, if possible. But then the school years rush by so quickly. Much easier said than done but who says life is supposed to be easy!
Our house went on the market last night, and yes I am scared to death. I know deep in my heart that we are doing the right thing, but it is really hard to sell when you don’t have a clear picture of what you are going to buy, where we will go and how our future will look.
A few things I do know. I know that by moving into the Pine Richland school district, we will be able to support Matt and Kate better. I know that we will be able to be more helpful to their mom. I know that the kids will all be on the same team and have the opportunity to spend more time together. I know that we won’t have to rush home to change clothes and cheer for another team. And we don’t even have to find a new church or new friends. I know this is the right choice, and most importantly I know that it will all work out. I just need to have a little faith.