When you meet someone who will be caring for your children, whether it’s a teacher, sports coach or nanny are you nice to them? Don’t you want them to like you? Do you care how they treat your kids? Don’t you want them to love and teach your kids as much as they can? I know I do. I go out of my way to treat that teacher/person with the utmost respect and kindness hoping they will form a connection with my child and love them too. I look at each person in my children’s lives as an opportunity to make an impact because we all have amazingly different qualities and attributes. If you are unkind or belittling to that teacher/caregiver, do you think that is better or worse for their relationship with your child? Why is a step parent any different? In most cases, they spend even more time with your children.
We all have family and friends either dating or married to someone who has kids from a previous relationship. This is the reality of today, and I believe will become more and more prevalent as divorce rates continue to increase across America and more and more step families and blended families are formed.
Being a mom or dad is the most rewarding experience anyone could ever ask for. Having children and finding out what unconditional love means is a gift more precious than any metal. It is irrelevant whether you gave birth to that child, adopted or became a step mom or dad through marriage or a relationship. We are all equal parents and want the absolute best for our children. I pray for open hearts and grace for every stepmom or stepdad and that they are valued and treated with kindness and respect.
Spread the joy of parenting and graciousness of your heart.