The definition of gracious in which we enjoy the most is – generosity of spirit. Gracious people place a high value on being gracious because they know how much they need grace themselves.
Proverbs 11:12 (ESV) says, whoever belittles his neighbor lacks sense, but a man of understanding remains silent.
Are you surrounded by gracious people? They all enjoy these amazing characteristics:
- Slow to take credit and quick to lavish praise (take compliments with a smile)
- Never seeks to embarrass another
- Always thanks others
- Never points out all the things they have done for you
- Doesn’t monopolize the conversation
- Doesn’t try to play “on up-manship”
- Pays attention to people
- Doesn’t try to fake their feelings
- Is always forward with offering help
- Desires to say what is appropriate
- Looks out for the comfort of others
- Accepts defeat or victory kindly
- Understands that he/she is not indispensable
- Constantly points out the good that he/she sees
Are you gracious? What areas can you improve? I know that I cstrive to be gracious in all that I am and all that I do. Does reading this list make you think of all the people who are not gracious? Sometimes it is hard to focus on the positive and even harder when you have someone in your life that is not gracious.
I believe we can all be more gracious. Being gracious is a choice. Some people are born with generosity of spirit (if that is you, you have a true treasure), others have to develop it. Graciousness can be learned therefore we can always choose to be gracious. We can always teach our children to have grace.
In the world of electronic communication, it is more important than ever to be gracious. Be careful with your words. Once they are said, they can be only forgiven, not forgotten.
“I think sometimes it’s more important to be gracious than to win,” said Dorothy Kilgallen. That is if you keep the interest of others in front of you. It will automatically teach you to be gracious.
“It is amazing what you can accomplish if you do not care who gets the credit,” Harry S. Truman.
“Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great, make you feel that you, too can become great.” Mark Twain